Wherever you go, there you are

First, a clarification on my “Tough Job” post.  There were a few comments that said, “Hey, I get all happy and bake cookies sometimes!”  So yeah, I didn’t mean to cast dispersions on cookie baking.  We all do that from time to time.  Yes, even ME.  There are days that you feel all warm and snugly and content and domestic.  For sure!  No way would any of us stick with this if we didn’t, right?  What I was talking about were the people who pretend like they never have a negative thought about being a stay at home mom (perish the thought and a pox upon you for feeling that way!).  These are the ones who, regardless if they honestly feel that way all the time or not, make those of us who definitely do NOT feel that way all the time like a pile of crap.  And it’s not to say that they want to make other mom’s feel like a pile of crap.  That could be the furthest thing from their minds.   As for those who DO want to make other moms feel like a pile of crap?  There’s a special spot in Hell for them.

Basically the way I feel is: staying at home with children is back breaking, soul crushing, mind numbing work.  There is no vacation, no break, no weekend and no sick days.  There’s just more of the same, day in and day out.  And all the trays of cookies in the world couldn’t change that.  We all look for the positive in things because we have to.  We don’t dwell on the awfulness because if we did, we’d go crazy.  But it’s there.  It’s always there.

Of course, warm hugs from snuggly children sure help too.

It’s also quite possible that people who are overly perky all the time make me want to slam my head in the door.   You know that old saying where if you don’t have anything nice to say, you best say nothing at all?  I think the opposite can be true.  If all you want to do is spout happiness and unicorns, then maybe just try to limit it a touch for those of us who didn’t get our daily rationing of coffee that morning.

Just sayin’.

In other news: I’m watching “Cars” for perhaps the 38th time this month.  It makes Liam mellow, which this morning was a neccesity.  He was starting to go thermonuclear.  I just want to pause for a moment and praise the dudes at Pixar for making visual crack for our children that DOESN’T make my brain bleed.

And in other, other news: Facebook is freakin’ addictive.  And I don’t even play games on there because most of the games are lame-o.  Yes, even that game that you love.  TRUST ME.  But I am addicted (just a little bit) to some of the quizzes and such.  And I love checking my friends’ and family’s statuses.  Facebook is FUN.  It is also a TIME SUCK.

In other, other, other news:  I love my iPhone.  I know you’re all sick to death of hearing me say that but I just saw those of you out there in the audience who have one too nod your heads knowingly.  It is quite simply the best thing I’ve ever owned.  I am forever amazed and thrilled with all the things it can do.  There’s a lot of stuff in my life that I would give up before I ever gave up my iPhone.

Okay.  I think I’m done.  With all that off my chest now, I’m going to share a cute little video of my girl discovering just how bouncy the couch is when it is removed of it’s cushions.


9 thoughts on “Wherever you go, there you are

  1. Normally, I don’t comment on these posts because they always seem to cause controversy. But since we are friends and you know me, I am going to comment for a change.

    First, staying home is hard. Sure. Yeah. Whatever. But I would be devastated if I had to go back to work and stick my kids in daycare. Getting to stay home is a privilege – one that I never forget and one that I do not take lightly. The thought of juggling a job, rushing to daycare, meeting deadlines and co-worker’s demands, sitting in traffic while someone else watches my kids, missing work when the kids are sick, having to leave meetings early to pick them up, rushing home to fix dinner and then dash them off to bed and ultimately, most importantly missing all these fun, tiny moments of my kids’ babyhoods and toddlerhoods makes me ill to my stomach. Period.

    Second, I purposefully try to keep most of the negativity out of my blog because if I die tomorrow, I do not want my kids reading my trite complaints and imparting some greater importance to them. I suspect folks in my real life think my blog is one big sham because my life is not all pretty. But it is for entertainment and I am acutely away that it IS something that my children will read someday.

    Third, I do not like cookies and I do not bake.


  2. I wish I could use an iPhone with Ver.izon (I need to check this out if this is ever possible) and I’m afraid to get on Facebook because I think it will suck up my time.

    Onto the majority of your post. I don’t see anything wrong with you posting about how difficult being a SAHM is. I agree. I think it’s a very hard job and it is just that – a job. I’m not a SAHM. I am a payroll mom at a large corporation. I don’t mind what I do, but it has it moments of bliss as well as moments of sheer hell. Just like being a SAHM. It’s funny, I am a manager and sometimes I use parenting techniques on my team. I don’t think they realize it, because I’m not condescending about it. Heck you can’t be condescending with kids when you use parenting techniques. I can’t even think of a good example, but it is funny when I realize I’m doing it. Hang in there.

  3. I think what you’re describing is the frustration of parenthood. I feel all those exact same things despite working out of the home two days a week. There’s never time off. No vacations no weekends no sick days. I have my moments when I think I can’t listen to one more tantrum or I feel like a failure because we didn’t do anything creative or educational that day. When I’m up all night with a crying or puking baby I still have to get up and dressed and put a smile on and be at work by 630 am. I guess what I’m saying is motherhood is HARD. You’re not alone. And the only moms I know that are the perky always together ones have a lot of help like nannies and family close by. The rest of us do the best we can and get through it with baby hugs and those special moments that make it all worth it.

  4. yes, the iphone is quite a technical achievement. but one thing that bugs me is the closed nature of it – i cannot make applications for it without apple’s consent 😦

    Jan from Czech republic.

  5. Elizabeth loves couch jumping too — she pulls all the cushions off so she’s closer to the springs and gets better “bounce”.

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